Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Darkness and light - Post 12 - Candle 5 -[Defensiveness

One of the faces of darkness I find most seductive is defensiveness. It's so easy to just want ot explain my point of view and why I'm not really all that wrong, even if I really am. Defensiveness shuts doors and blocks intimacy. It doesn't make me any less wrong. So tonight I commit to listening when I start to feel defensive and I light tonight's candle for all of us who work to listen to feedback without defensiveness and admit when we are wrong.


3 comments:

Mary said...

Wise thoughts here, Victoria. We all have to learn this lesson of non-defensiveness, I think.

Heidi said...

Hello,
Are you SEASTAR? This is Heidi, I wrote on a blog five years ago about my son Sully. You often commented, if I am indeed speaking to the same person. I am reengaging my writing and privately journaling about where I am five years later in this experience. Your comments were very valuable to me then. Even now, as I go back, your words still speak to me. I wanted to tell you, "thank you". I read your "about me" section on your blogger ID and can't help but feel the sense of a kindred spirit. I have thoughts, I have questions. I would love to communicate, five years later...

Victoria said...

Heidi, yes, I am Victoria, the seastar you remember. I remember well your writings about Sully. I would also love to communicate atain, to share where we both are five years later.