I talked tonight on the phone with a dear friend in New Mexico and our talk put my sadness about Jean's Dad's death into perspective. My friend told me the story of her own Dad's recent descent into dementia - the necessity to remove him from his home by force and place hi in an assisted living facility - the amount of love and energy his children have poured into this effort. This was a hard driving, brilliant, high achieving man, a pilot and executive who rose from poverty and accomplished much - a good man who raised his family with love and adored his wife who died several years ago. I want to say "He deserved a better ending." but I know better than to believe that our deaths and sufferings have anything to do with deserving. Its just sad.